In this year, month, day, hour, second – in this exact moment of being – your life is yours to live. Stop waiting. You don’t have to have it all figured out. I rarely do. And some of the best sex, best meals, best adventures, best creative efforts, “best of everything of Pamela Madsen” has been done on a wing and a prayer. You don’t have to be perfect. Ever. Forget labels. They don’t matter. I used to let labels define me. Like up until yesterday. Change can happen that quickly.
Sometimes, you have to stop midstream, and go in another direction. That’s okay too. You don’t have to clean you plate ever! Unless you want to.
Don’t play scared. Don’t play trapped. Don’t play what if. Don’t play small ever. Be painfully vulnerable. It’s okay to cry and it’s okay to want. Show up with a full heart and roll the dice. At the very least you know that you are playing your life full out. Big is the new black.
So what’s holding you back? A little fear? Got it. Me to. Reach for what you know is real. Let go of needing praise. Are you living your life for you or for somebody else? How hard are you working on fitting into the cage?
Guess what? You are worth more than that. How much of your life are you going to spend waiting to get permission to live? Stop it.
Now move it. Make it happen. I don’t know what it is for you. That book, that dance, that dream, that life. Stop dreaming. Create. Swing the bat and play hard. Remember you have this moment. Do it any way you want to.
Do you hear the music yet? It’s playing just for you.
Live a life of hope and possibility. Let resistance go, you know what you really want.
By Pamela Madsen
Pamela Madsen is an Integrative Life Coach Specializing In Women’s Issues: Sexuality, Fertility, Body Image, Wellness and Rejuvenation. Pamela is also author of the best selling memoir Shameless (Rodale, Jan 2011), and founder of The American Fertility Association. Her websites BeingShameless.com and her daily blog, thefertilityadvocate.com, are a breakfast essential for reporters, writers and policymakers.