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Seeing Your Home Through ‘Feng Shui’ Eyes

At the foundation of Feng Shui is the belief that everything in our  home is  alive and talking to us. This may seem like a stretch to many,  but stop and  think about it; when the first thing you encounter when you  enter your home is  the unrelenting pile of clutter, how does it make  you feel? My sense is – not so  great about yourself. And who needs that? (See my article The Anatomy of Clutter)

Your home holds information about belief systems that may or may not be  serving you. You can train yourself to see them by looking at exactly what is  there. By acting on this information, you gain valuable tools for transformation  and personal growth.

My client Elinore’s living room walls were filled with large,  expensive oil  paintings of her husband’s dead relatives. Sort of like the ones you might find  in a castle with everyone looking very severe and disapproving. She hated them  but did not have the nerve to tell her husband. He had inherited them and as the  only son of a wealthy family, wanted to have them up, but they had a very small  home. She had no room to put any of the pictures that she loved. Her space had  an important message for her if she was willing to see it.

In Elinore’s case it revealed that she didn’t value herself enough to have  that “courageous conversation” with her husband about not feeling comfortable in  her own space. She didn’t feel worthy of asking him for this important thing.  She could have presented him with options; he could put them in his own office  or even give them to other relatives. Because she could not speak up about her  own needs, she was consigning herself to live with the “eyes of the disapproving  relatives” eternally following her around the house.

It is our  personality that resists confrontation. It fears we may lose all  by speaking up. The truth is that we may lose if our relationships are  built on  sand, but if they are substantial, our loved ones will come  around and  our  relationships will be better for it.

Feng Shui teaches that every object in our homes and gardens has a   consciousness, which is called energy or chi. It is  interacting with us  and we are interacting with it on subtle, and not-so-subtle  levels. We are continuously “painting” where we are in life into our physical  surroundings. Whether we like it or not, our  space is reflecting our inner  psychology. By reading the messages that are there in our  surroundings,  we can gain valuable insights, bringing us the personal growth that our soul  seeks.

As we study Feng Shui we learn to see our homes with a new pair of  eyes. I  have been eternally grateful for the simple messages that my homes have provided  about what is going on in my inner world. As a person who has always been on a  path of personal growth, I welcome these valuable insights.

One example was when I got it about the impacts of having too much stuff. I started making myself have just one or two  objects displayed on a surface rather than my usual seven or eight. I realized  my home looked like the homes I staged with lots of decorative objects filling  every corner. There were no unfilled surfaces. In meditating why this  made me uncomfortable, I suddenly saw the simple lesson that was embedded  energetically into my home. I realized that I filled my social calendar the same  way I filled my home. Every corner was busy! My home, like my life,  reflected a lot of doing and not much being. I was  uncomfortable creating more spaciousness in my life and there it was reflected  in my home!

By creating more spaciousness in my living space, I  created an environmental affirmation which reflected  my  intention to spend more time developing my inner landscape. This  translated to more time spent in self-reflection, meditation and yoga. As a  result of my home becoming more balanced, my life also came more into  balance.

There are invaluable messages embedded in our space that can change  our  lives for the better. Feng Shui teaches us to look at our space in new ways  which allows for many powerful “ah hah” moments. Subtle changes in our living  space often produce big changes in our lives.

Although everything in our environment provides valuable information about  our inner beliefs, the easiest way to start is by looking at your artwork. What  is it telling you about your belief systems? The overwhelming wall of family  photos in the hallway often reveals that the client’s life has been overwhelmingly about family in an un-balanced way. Often her children  have grown and she is now faced with not knowing who she is. I  recommend weeding out some of the family photos and adding pictures of the  client doing fun things with friends or by herself. By affirming this new way of  being, she brings it into prominence in her life. She begins to attract friends  and experiences that affirm her as a individual, enriching her life and filling  the “empty nest” with her new sense of self and purpose.

Perhaps you have some depressing pictures, or too many single women pictures – and you want to bring in a relationship? Or maybe  you have art work that simply matches the room but does not inspire you? Your  walls act as important real estate reflecting what it is you want to bring into  your life. Use them to move your life forward in a way that affirms, inspires  and uplifts. This affirmation in your physical space will begin to work  energetically on your internal space and your life will begin to shift in the  direction you desire. (See my article Your Home is Attracting your Future.)

You may also want to look at what is not there. Often a home with no  pictures on the walls or sparse furniture reflects an inability or fear of  commitment. A fear of making choices that are wrong, so no choices are made at  all. It can also reflect a lack of commitment to your living space. You may not  like it and are hoping to find something you like better when you can afford it.  I have found time and time again when a client fully commits to where they are  living now and makes it wonderful, the doors open pretty rapidly to a  better place. Many of life’s lessons can be found in the Feng Shui of  our space.

It’s quite simple really; when we feel better about our living  space, we  become happier people. Happier people attract others who want  to spend time  with them, who will often bring opportunities along as  well.

A home that lifts your spirits and reflects your true tastes, loves  and  desires, makes you happy. In doing so it is amplifying the happiness   quotient in your life and attracting more of it. Consequently, a home that  always drags you down  because of the accumulation of all the little things that  bug you, is continuing to attract more of what you don’t want.

Western Feng Shui, which is the form that I teach and  practice, is not about hanging mysterious crystals and  wind chimes in strategic  places. It is not about some “woo woo” superstition that is too  complicated to figure out. You will unfortunately encounter  many books that try  to make it mysterious, but the skinny on  Feng Shui is that is is  simple. By working on your home to make it a  more pleasing place for you and/or  your family to be, you are changing  your energy. You simply feel better, hence are  more enjoyable to be around and you start to experience a domino  effect of positive things happening  in your life!

By Erica Sofrina,  author of the book Small Changes, Dynamic Results! Feng Shui for the Western  World.

Erica Sofrina is a  motivational speaker, author and life coach specializing in connecting people to  their spiritual essence. She is also an Internationally recognized Feng Shui  speaker, teacher and the author of the book Small  Changes, Dynamic Results! Feng Shui for the Western World and the Founder of  the West  Coast Academy of Feng Shui.  She is also the founder of Earth Spirit  Adventure Travel which takes people on retreats to powerful energy vortexes such  as Bali and Hawaii to facilitate their deep earth/spirit connection. Find out  more at www.ericasofrina.com

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Comments on: "Seeing Your Home Through ‘Feng Shui’ Eyes" (1)

  1. Such a cool post. Love it. 🙂

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