Pain is failure alerting the mind and body!
I doubt that any of us enjoys pain. After all, who would look forward to being in discomfort in their personal life, their health, or in their relationships? Yet, if you stop and think about it, pain is a gift. It tells us that there is a failure somewhere; something is wrong.
C.S. Lewis is the famous author of The Chronicles of Narnia. That collection of books includes The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, which was made into a movie not long ago. He also wrote a book called The Problem of Pain. He explained in the book how pain is actually a gift and is necessary to help re-direct us in every area of our life. Perhaps a simple little illustration will point this Tip in the right direction.
If you are in the kitchen and the stove is red-hot, it is a good warning signal to you that if you touch it, it will cause you pain. If you did not have the ability to feel pain, you might accidentally put your hand on the stove and burn it severely. Certainly you would not want that to happen.
This is not only true in the physical realm; it is also true in our personal lives as well. In the past couple of years, many of us have experienced pain in our personal finances. Perhaps that is an indicator that there is something wrong with the way we look at or handle our financial situation. There is no longer such a thing as job security or financial security. There is always some unknown mitigating circumstance that could happen that would cause us to look at our financial picture in an entirely different light.
If there is pain in a personal relationship, the pain is alerting us to the fact that something is wrong. Maybe counseling is needed, or perhaps someone needs to wake up to the way they are behaving or treating other people. Unfortunately, many times that is not realized until someone walks out of the relationship. However, pain is a good thing because it indicates that a failure has occurred and that something needs to change.
I am not a sadistic person. I do not wake up every morning thinking, “Oh, boy, I look forward to having pain in my life today!” I do not like pain any more than you do. I simply want all of us to understand that pain is not a bad thing. It is like a red flag waving to get our attention so that we can understand that something has gone wrong.
When you are driving your car and a little red light comes on in the dash panel, it is a warning signal. It is a “pain” signal! It is telling you that something is wrong and that you need to quickly do something about it. If you fail to heed the warning, it may not be long before you find yourself standing on the side of the road! When you pay attention to your car and maintain it properly, getting the oil changed, rotating the tires, keeping the front-end aligned; it will cooperate with you and take you anywhere you want to go. But, if you do not pay attention to the needs of your car, sooner or later, the red light will come on and let you know of your failure.
When we recognize that pain is a good thing, we can immediately allow it to put us back on course and help us go in the right direction. The next time you experience pain in your life, don’t run from it, don’t reject it, and don’t blame someone else for it. Determine the source of your pain and decide what you can do to make your business, your personal life, your spiritual life, or your financial life better by acting in a way that relieves the pain and keeps you from failing any longer in that area. That is my approach. It is working for me and I know it will work for you, too!
Have a great week! God bless you!
Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.
Reprinted with permission from the “Tip of the Week”. To subscribe for the free “Tip of the Week” please go to http://www.personalityinsights.com and receive Dr. Rohm’s weekly Tip every Monday morning.